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Articles in English about Relationship and Couples Coaching

Par-coach Mikael Hoffmann

www.parforhold-parterapi.dk/couples-therapy-copenhagen

Stop OVERTHINKING and save your relationship!

  • Anslået læsetid: 11 min read

Thinking and feeling are important and necessary parts of human life

In this article, you will gain insight into how overthinking and being overly sensitive can lead to feeling trapped in yourself and your relationship.

The causes of overthinking, insecurity, and uncertainty are explained, as well as why one can feel anxious in a relationship.

Finally, there are guidelines on how to manage and resolve the issues of overthinking.

If it’s too difficult to solve the problems on your own, there is, however, great help available from professional couple therapists and coaches.
You just need to carefully choose the person who can help you in the best way.

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What’s the worst thing you can do to your partner?

  • Anslået læsetid: 14 min read

Poor Communication in Relationships

Why do things sometimes go so terribly wrong?
Without us knowing why or how to handle it?

The American psychologist John Gottman has thoroughly studied videos of conversations from more than 3,000 married couples.
He discovered that certain types of behavior have a significant impact on the durability of a marriage.
The couples were filmed while talking to each other, and then Gottman and his team measured, counted, and recorded 20 different categories of emotional expressions – such as sorrow, anger, and frustration.Read More »What’s the worst thing you can do to your partner?

Structure in everyday life

  • Anslået læsetid: 17 min read

The Bad Habits – If There Is NO Structure in Your Daily Life

Many married couples/partners develop daily habits and routines over the years that can be harmful or even downright destructive for a healthy relationship.
parforhold parterapi struktur
However, experience shows that just a few adjustments in daily life can significantly improve the relationship.
It’s about creating some fixed anchor points or pivot points with structure, focus, and presence throughout the day.Read More »Structure in everyday life

Action steps

  • Anslået læsetid: 3 min read

questions for the Relationship10 Questions for the Relationship

How to talk about the deep and important questions with your partner.

If it is too difficult, it might be a good idea to do it together with a third person who has no emotional agenda with either of you, but who, for example, offers couples therapy. Preferably choose a professional couples therapist in Copenhagen with experience.

You can of course also try it yourself.
Copy the questions for your relationship below in two copies, and answer each individually. Then compare your answers with each other and talk about how you can get closer to your common goals and what it takes to overcome the challenges.Read More »Action steps

Understanding, Trust, Safety, Respect for each other and Forgiveness

  • Anslået læsetid: 14 min read

Rediscover Love in Your Relationship

In this article, you will learn about the five fundamental elements of a good relationship.

You will also get some good advice on how to improve your relationship.

Setting boundaries and healthy communication will be described, as well as 9 specific tips on how to increase trust, security, and respect with your partner.

If it is too difficult to change some things in your daily life and the dynamics between you, you might consider counseling for married couples near me in Copenhagen or online on Skype to speed up the process and make it easier for yourselves.

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Couples Therapy – What Is It?

  • Anslået læsetid: 8 min read

A Better Relationship

What is couple therapy?Do you experience that the relationship can be hard – with misunderstandings and perhaps arguments about disagreements?
If you feel unseen and unheard, and have difficulty understanding your partner’s way of being, you are not alone.
When two different people live together, conflicts will ALWAYS arise at some point.

In reality, it’s not the problems that are the problem.
Rather, it’s the way you handle and “land” the problems that create challenges, pain – and divorces.

Couple coaching is about changing habits and creating understanding and aligning expectations – perhaps with new and different ways of communicating with each other.Read More »Couples Therapy – What Is It?

Submission and dominance in the relationship

  • Anslået læsetid: 7 min read

What Does It Take to Create a Happy Relationship for Both Partners?

dominant partnerHere are some good tips for the MAN who is frustrated in his relationship.

We are becoming more and more aware that we do not want to feel bad.

Fortunately, many people live happy lives, but there are still about 40% who are so miserable in their relationships that they end up divorcing.

Others put up with the most horrible situations – perhaps because the alternatives seem too frightening.Read More »Submission and dominance in the relationship

A farewell letter

  • Anslået læsetid: 5 min read

End of the Year

farewell letterFor many years, I have used December 31st to look back on the past year and reflect on what has happened.
Together with my family, we look at pictures and talk about the people we have met and what has mattered to us.

On January 1st, we look forward to the coming year. I make plans and think through strategies.

And I write a farewell letter!

I got the idea from one of my friends in the military.
He told me that deployed soldiers, before they leave, always have to write a farewell letter to their loved ones, in case something happens to them and they don’t come home alive.

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The five layers of communication in the relationship

  • Anslået læsetid: 14 min read

How You Can Practically and Effectively Improve Your Relationship!

Couples therapy that works with strategy, technique, and concrete tools
Overview: In this article, you will get a thorough review of some concrete communication strategies and tools – depending on how well or difficult you find it to be with each other in given situations.

Most couples therapists help couples in crisis with general emotional problems.
There is, of course, nothing wrong with that, and it is perfectly fine.
There are thousands of couples therapists spread across the country.Read More »The five layers of communication in the relationship

Regain trust in your partner

  • Anslået læsetid: 4 min read

How to Restore Trust in a Relationship?

And how to handle betrayal if it has been broken?

If there has been a betrayal or breach of trust in the relationship, and your partner has made a mistake, it is important to rebuild the trust, even if it can be a big challenge that requires both time and resources.
Especially if you need to regain trust after infidelity.Read More »Regain trust in your partner

Falling in love and love – background knowledge

  • Anslået læsetid: 7 min read

The Chemistry Between Two People

What is the background of infatuation and love in terms of chemistry, physiology, and psychology?
Why has evolution equipped us with these two “entities”?

Chemistry between man and womanInfatuation is a fantastic feeling.
It is one of the best “kicks” one can imagine – completely natural without artificial additives.

Originally, evolution “invented” infatuation so that we could mate with a partner with good genes, ensuring a good upbringing for the offspring.
In this way, we influence the next generation, which can continue the propagation of our own genes.Read More »Falling in love and love – background knowledge

The Hidden Signals of Women and Men

  • Anslået læsetid: 15 min read

How to Read Your Partner’s Body Signals?
signs he's attracted to you

In this article, you will read that body signals are not magic, but pure science.

You will learn how men and women can master the art of flirting – whether you are in a relationship and doing it with your partner, or you are single and looking for a partner.

You will find descriptions of specific signals that men send to women, and other signals that women send to men – which the receiver might find difficult to interpret and understand.

Also, WHY it is so.

If it’s hard to achieve the positive results in the relationship that you desire, you will also be introduced to Couples Therapy Copenhagen with one of the country’s most skilled and effective couples therapists.

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Boundary settings

  • Anslået læsetid: 11 min read

Learn to speak up and set boundaries

In this article you will learn how to improve your life and others’ by setting healthy natural boundaries. How it will make it easier for others to be with you if you master this.

We will also discuss internal and external boundaries and motivation.

Furthermore, you will get 8 examples of things that may prevent you from saying no and setting boundaries.

If it is in relation to your partner that you have challenges with boundary setting, Couples Therapy Copenhagen might be helpful – because if it were easy and simple, you and your partner would have done it a long time ago…

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Prioritization triangle and priorities in relationships

  • Anslået læsetid: 23 min read

“I don’t feel prioritized by my partner….!”

Prioritizing in relationshipsIn this article you will learn why it is more important to prioritize yourself first, and then your partner, to have a good life and relationship.

You will also learn what it means to prioritize yourself first – without being selfish.

It’s about a somewhat different mindset and perspective that will make your life and relationship significantly easier, more enjoyable, and more loving.Read More »Prioritization triangle and priorities in relationships

Passion

  • Anslået læsetid: 5 min read

Passion and Enthusiasm

passion in a relationship

  • Have you found your right place in life with the right person?
  • Do you wake up in the morning excited about the day and the exciting new possibilities and experiences that await you?
  • Are you passionate about what you do and love the people you are with?

Being wholehearted and deeply engaged in something and someone is an important resource and the key to a good life.

IF it is too difficult to change your life for the better on your own, you can speed up the process with the help of professionals, such as a couples therapist Copenhagen or in the rest of the country.
Because if it had been easy to do it yourself, you probably would have done it long ago….
Read More »Passion

When should you divorce your partner? Is divorce the solution?

  • Anslået læsetid: 19 min read

Divorce

When Do You Know It’s Time to Divorce?

In this article, you will see what it takes to avoid divorce with a couples coach.

You will learn about some of the consequences of separation and the benefits of staying together and resolving your issues.

We will also cover the psychological defense mechanisms with strategies and habits in daily life.

If you are in a complicated and painful relationship without love, I have some suggestions on how to make your relationship work optimally again.

There will also be references to how to deal with infidelity and affairs.

Additionally, you will learn about attachment styles and challenges with intimacy.

So if it is too difficult to do on your own it might be a good idea to talk with a couples therapist to find out what can be done.
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Midlife crisis in the relationship

  • Anslået læsetid: 9 min read

Help for Midlife Crisis

  • Midtvejskrise i parforholdetAre you experiencing problems in your relationship?
  • Is your partner completely impossible, and has it been going on for a while?
  • Do you suspect a midlife crisis as the reason for your challenges?
  • Either your own or your partner’s midlife crisis?

Many different studies have been conducted on various problems on this earth. Not least our human problems with each other and life.

Some studies show that happiness is continually increasing throughout life, while other studies show that there is a low point in the 40s.Read More »Midlife crisis in the relationship

Ultra Short Description of Couples Coaching

  • Anslået læsetid: 4 min read

The Shortest and Easiest Path to a Good Relationship

Relationship Coach Mikael Hoffmann
Every conflict (in a relationship) can only be resolved by understanding, acknowledging, and respecting each other, and finding creative ways to meet our different needs.

A good relationship fundamentally involves: Understanding, Trust, Security, Respect for each other – and Forgiveness.

Love consists of Understanding, Devotion, and the choice to give your partner what they want.
When both partners in the relationship do this and perform active caring actions, they feel the love.
True love is not a feeling, but rather a loving action.

Both Relationships and Love can be learned (if not learned in childhood).Read More »Ultra Short Description of Couples Coaching

The Difference Between infatuation And Love

  • Anslået læsetid: 14 min read

What is Love?

infatuation and love

In this article, you will learn about two concepts in emotional life that are vastly different, but often confused by many people, leading to great frustration and pain in relationships. Therefore, it is important to know the difference between the two.

You will learn to distinguish between infatuation and true love – and you will get definitions of both.

There is a difference between men and women, and we will also work with that. About the differences and unknowns.

You will also get a historical overview with explanations of the concepts.

Read more about therapist for couples at www.parforhold-parterapi.dk/couples-therapy-copenhagen, if you feel that it is too difficult to handle yourself.

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